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missroseroseAs is evinced by the subject line, I did indeed have a weird dream last night. As I may or may not have mentioned at some point in the past, I spent much of my youth (ah, my lost youth...*sighs nostalgically*) with a girl named Kristine. Nice girl, and we got along fairly well for the most part, though in later years we discovered that spending any more than a few days in each other's company resulted in our seriously getting on each others' nerves.
Once college came up, we tried to keep in touch, but then she joined some extremely conservative Christian sect (the sort that believes you're not supposed to kiss someone until you're married to them, for instance), and when I tried to talk to her, she couldn't refrain from being a bit judgmental. Not to say that I wasn't exactly judgmental, either, but then, I never said anything about it to her face - I firmly believe that people should live their lives however they think is right. And given how her parents raised her (extremely permissive), I can't say as I blame her for wanting some structure in her life. I can just hope that she'll eventually wise up and realize that getting told how to live every little part of your life is just as bad as not knowing what you're supposed to do.
I haven't heard from her in a good couple of years (not surprising, given how little we really have to talk about), though I did see her sign on to MSN yesterday for the first time in...quite a while, really. But I dreamed about her last night. We were kids again (well, youngish teenagers...14 or 15-ish) and visiting a mall, or a town, or something strange like that. Maybe it was an outdoor mall. In any case, we go to a pet shelter, and I get distracted playing with these adorable little animals that look like flat cat-shaped pillows, but are actually alive (no, I don't get it either). When I turn around, she's gone, and when I finally catch up with her, she's getting all annoyed and stuff like she used to get after we'd been together for several days. I sit down with her and talk to her about it, and for once, she'll actually *talk* about it, which she never would before...she admits that she's jealous of how I've always been the outgoing one with more courage, even though I often ended up getting socially trounced as a result. But my happy-go-lucky attitude wears on her, as she's a bit more careful; and whenever she tries to be outgoing it tends to backfire on her.
To be perfectly honest, I have no clue what this was all about. I'll clearly admit that all this stuff we talked about in the dream is pretty much my assessment of our relationship at that point, but I'm not sure why it's coming up now, or why my mind felt the need to articulate it in a dream. I do find myself wondering what's going on with her, whether she's bucked the whole cult thing or not or whether she's perhaps married with a sprog or something...
Odd, how my past tends to catch up with me at the strangest times.
In other news, I've been looking into getting a cell phone, mostly because (a) the phone I have at the dorms has no answering machine and is so rarely for me that I hate running all the way down the stairs to answer it, (b) I tend to be on the go a lot (especially now that I have a car and a bit more of a social life) so it'd be useful for people to have a way to contact me, and (c) I'm a pretty rare phone user in general, so I could probably get away with getting one of the cheaper plans. The thing is, this is really more of a luxury than a necessity (while it'd be nice to have, it's not something I'm in desperate need of), and it's looking like a basic plan's going to cost me a good $30 or so a month, not to mention activation fees/cost for actual phone/taxes/etc. Considering that my paycheck runs a little over $200 every couple of weeks, that's a substantial chunk of my income. Not to mention that, now that I have a car, I'm already paying $30 every couple of weeks for gas, and there are likely to be repair costs on top of that...
The bottom line is, it's doable, but I'm not sure I want to deal with the extra expense and related stress. But there's no harm in researching it, so I'm probably going to go by a few of the different providers in town and get copies of the contracts to look over...
Also, I have a question for those cell-phone users out there: What, exactly, is the point of having text messaging on a cell phone? Isn't the whole point of a cell phone to *talk* to someone? I'm honestly curious, here. I've asked a couple cell users I know, and these are the only reasons I've heard:
1.) If you need to send someone a message while they're in class/a movie/the library/etc; they can get the message without bothering everyone else. (Being a big fan of cell phone ettiquette, this one I can see, but unless it's a really urgent message, wouldn't a voice mail work just as well?
2.) If you're calling someone long distance, it's cheaper to send a 10 cent text message than to pay 35 cents per minute. (I'll grant this one, too, but it's kind of a moot point for me, as I don't know anybody's long-distance cell phone number...)
3.) Cuteness. In the sense that, "OMG its kewl n I use it all teh tyme!!!!11!". (Need I say anything here?)
So...yeah. If anyone else has any thoughts (on the reasoning behind text messaging or cell phones in general), let me know.
Once college came up, we tried to keep in touch, but then she joined some extremely conservative Christian sect (the sort that believes you're not supposed to kiss someone until you're married to them, for instance), and when I tried to talk to her, she couldn't refrain from being a bit judgmental. Not to say that I wasn't exactly judgmental, either, but then, I never said anything about it to her face - I firmly believe that people should live their lives however they think is right. And given how her parents raised her (extremely permissive), I can't say as I blame her for wanting some structure in her life. I can just hope that she'll eventually wise up and realize that getting told how to live every little part of your life is just as bad as not knowing what you're supposed to do.
I haven't heard from her in a good couple of years (not surprising, given how little we really have to talk about), though I did see her sign on to MSN yesterday for the first time in...quite a while, really. But I dreamed about her last night. We were kids again (well, youngish teenagers...14 or 15-ish) and visiting a mall, or a town, or something strange like that. Maybe it was an outdoor mall. In any case, we go to a pet shelter, and I get distracted playing with these adorable little animals that look like flat cat-shaped pillows, but are actually alive (no, I don't get it either). When I turn around, she's gone, and when I finally catch up with her, she's getting all annoyed and stuff like she used to get after we'd been together for several days. I sit down with her and talk to her about it, and for once, she'll actually *talk* about it, which she never would before...she admits that she's jealous of how I've always been the outgoing one with more courage, even though I often ended up getting socially trounced as a result. But my happy-go-lucky attitude wears on her, as she's a bit more careful; and whenever she tries to be outgoing it tends to backfire on her.
To be perfectly honest, I have no clue what this was all about. I'll clearly admit that all this stuff we talked about in the dream is pretty much my assessment of our relationship at that point, but I'm not sure why it's coming up now, or why my mind felt the need to articulate it in a dream. I do find myself wondering what's going on with her, whether she's bucked the whole cult thing or not or whether she's perhaps married with a sprog or something...
Odd, how my past tends to catch up with me at the strangest times.
In other news, I've been looking into getting a cell phone, mostly because (a) the phone I have at the dorms has no answering machine and is so rarely for me that I hate running all the way down the stairs to answer it, (b) I tend to be on the go a lot (especially now that I have a car and a bit more of a social life) so it'd be useful for people to have a way to contact me, and (c) I'm a pretty rare phone user in general, so I could probably get away with getting one of the cheaper plans. The thing is, this is really more of a luxury than a necessity (while it'd be nice to have, it's not something I'm in desperate need of), and it's looking like a basic plan's going to cost me a good $30 or so a month, not to mention activation fees/cost for actual phone/taxes/etc. Considering that my paycheck runs a little over $200 every couple of weeks, that's a substantial chunk of my income. Not to mention that, now that I have a car, I'm already paying $30 every couple of weeks for gas, and there are likely to be repair costs on top of that...
The bottom line is, it's doable, but I'm not sure I want to deal with the extra expense and related stress. But there's no harm in researching it, so I'm probably going to go by a few of the different providers in town and get copies of the contracts to look over...
Also, I have a question for those cell-phone users out there: What, exactly, is the point of having text messaging on a cell phone? Isn't the whole point of a cell phone to *talk* to someone? I'm honestly curious, here. I've asked a couple cell users I know, and these are the only reasons I've heard:
1.) If you need to send someone a message while they're in class/a movie/the library/etc; they can get the message without bothering everyone else. (Being a big fan of cell phone ettiquette, this one I can see, but unless it's a really urgent message, wouldn't a voice mail work just as well?
2.) If you're calling someone long distance, it's cheaper to send a 10 cent text message than to pay 35 cents per minute. (I'll grant this one, too, but it's kind of a moot point for me, as I don't know anybody's long-distance cell phone number...)
3.) Cuteness. In the sense that, "OMG its kewl n I use it all teh tyme!!!!11!". (Need I say anything here?)
So...yeah. If anyone else has any thoughts (on the reasoning behind text messaging or cell phones in general), let me know.
