Help Rose maintain her sanity!

[missroserose]

It's Friday, and for some reason everyone around me seems to have taken crazy pills this morning. (Is there a free sample giveaway for Crazoc that I missed?)

Ask me a question, and help me maintain the illusion that the rest of the world has *not* gone insane while I wasn't looking...

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[joyfulleigh.livejournal.com]

Tell me something about your upcoming wedding! :)

L.

[roseneko.livejournal.com]

Well, it's not technically a question, but I'll let it slide. :)

We're not quite sure how to handle the registration/gifting aspect. On the one hand, we're already a firmly established household and have no need for the traditional mixer/toaster/china/fondue set; frankly, we don't have room for the extra crap, anyway. On the other hand, we'd be very pleased if people gave us money so we could afford to honeymoon in Hawai'i; but on the third hand, I don't quite feel comfortable asking for money from people - I know that's incredibly gauche. But on the fourth hand (apparently I'm Vishnu today), I know that mores are changing, especially as more and more couples get married after establishing a household together; and most banks these days have some equivalent of a matri-money account designed specifically for couples who would prefer cash gifts instead of toasters, which must mean that it's more acceptable than it used to be. Am I overthinking this? ;)

[joyfulleigh.livejournal.com]

Perhaps it depends on who the majority of attendees or giftgivers will be. My mother (Miss Emily Post incarnate) would be horrified at the matri-money account, as would anyone in my grandparents' generation. On the other hand, I think it's perfectly practical and makes so much more sense than registering for china you'll never use. Will you be inviting mostly your friends, or your parents' friends? If a combination, then perhaps you do both and register for sheets and towels (who couldn't use more sheets??) AND set up a bank account and have your bridesmaids spread the word to your generation that that's where gifts should focus.

L.

[roseneko.livejournal.com]

Hm, that's not a bad idea. Although we actually have several sets of sheets - Costco has a tendency to get in super-nice high quality sateen ones for not too much, and we both love luxurious sheets. :)

Our wedding is actually going to be rather smaller than all that - I think there's an upper limit of 14 people, and it'll be a fair mix of friends our age and our parents' age (with a couple of grandparents tossed in for good measure).

Frankly, there's few enough people that I'm kind of tempted to just forget the whole gifts idea. Although I suppose we could set up one of those accounts, then pass the buck to my mother when people ask about gifts. She's a Scientologist, after all - one thing they're not shy about is asking for money. :D

[roseneko.livejournal.com]

Also, here's something just fun - check out the adorable shoes (http://dyeablesshoes.stores.yahoo.net/dy-20001sa.html) I ordered. (I love heels and what they do for my legs, but Brian's the same height as me and I'm thinking he'd probably rather I didn't tower over him. And my dress is long anyway, so it won't matter too much.)

[joyfulleigh.livejournal.com]

Those ARE really cute. Way cuter than the average dyeable shoe!

L.

[rapier.livejournal.com]

Are you guys planning a traditional sort of honeymoon after the wedding? If so, where are you going?

[roseneko.livejournal.com]

Sheesh, I should have called this "IFAMAQ: Wedding Edition". :)

We'd like to go to Hawai'i, but are holding back a bit until we have a better idea of what our finances will look like. Even small weddings are bloody expensive. :P Fortunately my mother's helping defray the cost somewhat, but we'll see - I'd rather not start our life as newlyweds in severe debt. On the other hand, nobody's vacationing right now, so there are some pretty screaming deals to be had hotel- and airfare-wise.

[amanda_lodden.livejournal.com]

My wedding cost $265 (though if I had it to do over again, I'd have spent another $150 to have the house cleaned). It's possible, but it means asking yourself if you REALLY need all the bells and whistles.

I always planned to have a big wedding "later" as a renewal-of-vows, but as time went on I realized that I really didn't care about having a big cake and a dress I'd never wear again and dinner for a bunch of people, and I'd much rather travel and remodel the kitchen.

[roseneko.livejournal.com]

Hee. We gave some serious thought to just eloping, but my mother would have killed us - she absolutely loves weddings. Fortunately, she's helping defray some of the cost, and we're keeping it small, which is helping a lot. I don't feel the need for a big white gown and hundreds of guests or anything, but I know she wants to make the cake and there's still enough sixteen-year-old-girl in me to want a pretty dress. :)

[jamesd.livejournal.com]

Why did Friday the 13th come a week late for you? :)

[roseneko.livejournal.com]

I'm afraid you've got me there. However, the afternoon went splendidly, and the evening is only looking better. So I apparently only got a half-dose, anyway. :)

[alexmegami]

Are there any new recipes you want to try, or have tried lately and would recommend?

[roseneko.livejournal.com]

Hmm...not me personally (unless you count drink recipes), but Brian made some pretty fabulous black bean soup from this recipe (http://www.recipezaar.com/TGIFridays-Black-Bean-Soup-102274). I think the only major changes he made were omitting the liquid smoke and adding some spices.

[alexmegami]

Oooo....