Sleep. Wonderful thing, that.
Dec. 11th, 2003 09:56 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
missroseroseFinals are over. Papers are written. Speeches are given. Material is studied. Tests are taken. Classes are over and done with...for this semester, anyway. Classes for next semester are registered. Firefly DVD's are bought. The only thing left on my to-do list from the past couple of weeks is to get my driver's license. I spent the last two days catching up on sleep. I feel so much better.
Work is boring, but I only have today and tomorrow to deal with, fortunately. Next week I get to fly down to Anchorage and then to Colorado to visit my Mormon cousins, one of whom is almost my age and getting married. Almost my age. 21, for godsakes. And she's getting married. Has she even considered the fact that, ideally, she's going to be spending her life with this guy? Is she doing this because she wants to, or because her family/church wants her to, or because she wants to know what sex is like, or what? Doesn't she realize that there are other options??
Maybe I'm being too hard on her. After all, I haven't even seen her since I was 9 or so. Maybe she's just a helluva lot more mature than I am. Maybe (likely, I would think) I'm a helluva lot farther on the left-wing side than she is. Maybe she honestly thinks this will make her happy. In which case, I wish her nothing but the best.
I think the reason this bugs me so much is that, not so long ago, I was hoping to get married within the next couple of years. And yet a lot of events have happened over the past six months or so that have made me realize that I'm nowhere near ready for marriage. Nor are most twenty-somethings I know, especially early twenty-somethings. Admittedly, there are exceptions, but I'm beginning to see why it is that so many marriages end in divorce - because marriage is no longer seen as a permanent thing, people can give up when the relationship gets hard, as opposed to actually making it work. And because it's hard enough to find one person who's willing to put forth that kind of effort, let alone two, very few couples make it. It's one of the reasons I admire those who do.
Bah. Love is hard. Once you've realized that, I think, you're ahead of the game. Doubly so if your partner has also realized it.
"If they ever invent a vibrator that takes out the trash, I'm giving up on men altogether." --Dave Barry, "Tricky Business"
@->--Rose
Work is boring, but I only have today and tomorrow to deal with, fortunately. Next week I get to fly down to Anchorage and then to Colorado to visit my Mormon cousins, one of whom is almost my age and getting married. Almost my age. 21, for godsakes. And she's getting married. Has she even considered the fact that, ideally, she's going to be spending her life with this guy? Is she doing this because she wants to, or because her family/church wants her to, or because she wants to know what sex is like, or what? Doesn't she realize that there are other options??
Maybe I'm being too hard on her. After all, I haven't even seen her since I was 9 or so. Maybe she's just a helluva lot more mature than I am. Maybe (likely, I would think) I'm a helluva lot farther on the left-wing side than she is. Maybe she honestly thinks this will make her happy. In which case, I wish her nothing but the best.
I think the reason this bugs me so much is that, not so long ago, I was hoping to get married within the next couple of years. And yet a lot of events have happened over the past six months or so that have made me realize that I'm nowhere near ready for marriage. Nor are most twenty-somethings I know, especially early twenty-somethings. Admittedly, there are exceptions, but I'm beginning to see why it is that so many marriages end in divorce - because marriage is no longer seen as a permanent thing, people can give up when the relationship gets hard, as opposed to actually making it work. And because it's hard enough to find one person who's willing to put forth that kind of effort, let alone two, very few couples make it. It's one of the reasons I admire those who do.
Bah. Love is hard. Once you've realized that, I think, you're ahead of the game. Doubly so if your partner has also realized it.
"If they ever invent a vibrator that takes out the trash, I'm giving up on men altogether." --Dave Barry, "Tricky Business"
@->--Rose
