What a dweezil...
May. 14th, 2004 11:21 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
missroseroseI don't rant much, but there's one story that's pissing me off to the point where I'm feeling like exploding. So here goes...
A little less than a year ago, a really sweet girl I knew, whom I shall call Kat to protect her privacy, told me that she'd gotten herself knocked up.
I wasn't too happy about this, but to her credit, neither was she. She's about my age (20), in college, and (due to her conservative Midwest upbringing) was pretty clueless about sex/birth control/etc. Apparently she had slept with her friend Marcus (whom I also knew) a few times, and hadn't used protection. She was pretty scared about it.
Now, Kat I can understand, but Marcus, despite being clueless, grew up in Alaska, and therefore went to the same school system I did. And I *know* that, despite being a pretty conservative state, Alaska has a good education program about STD's, pregnancy, and the precautions you should take.
Unfortunately, while he's got a good heart, Marcus is probably damn close to the definition of "clueless". If I'd been in the same town as him when Kat told me he hadn't used birth control, nor even said anything about it, he would have been minus a couple of testicles. I wasn't surprised that he hadn't wanted to deal with it, but I was pretty damn pissed. Especially since he was being a total dipshit about the whole thing ("As much as I love Kat, I don't want to marry her, she's not the one for me, and besides, she doesn't challenge me intellectually...I think I'd be a better uncle than a father...etc. etc.")
Well, Kat's not going to get an abortion, which I'm willing to respect as her decision. She decides to look into adoption, which I'm all for. I'm not really in touch much past this, aside from snippets here and there from Greg, an ex-boyfriend who also happens to be a good friend of both parties involved.
I finally got a news update from Marcus - apparently, the kid (I haven't heard which gender) was born two months premature and just recently came home from the hospital. And Kat's decided to keep it, and Marcus is (to his credit) acting at least somewhat more mature; he's moved a lot of things over to Kat's to be close by.
But this still doesn't give me much hope, either for Kat or the kid. Especially given this recent gem from Marcus, when I was talking to him over MSN:
"Childrearing isn't too difficult. It's a lot like living your own life, except making sure you present a good image and are around to do so."
...
My god. This guy is so fucking lucky I'm not living in the same town as him. Because if I were, I'd be sorely tempted to strangle him.
In any case, he's basically clueless, and I tell him as much, to which he rejoinds, "No, you just don't know me that well." I was sleeping with your good friend for three months, bub. I know you pretty damn well. And I know you're in NO FUCKING SHAPE TO BE RAISING A CHILD, AND YOU SURE AS HELL SHOULDN'T HAVE PUT THIS BURDEN ON KAT, WHO IS ONLY MARGINALLY MORE MATURE THAN YOU AND DOESN'T DESERVE THIS KIND OF SHIT!!
*breathes*
No, I don't suffer fools gladly, how did you guess?
Apologies if this gets incoherent. I'm really pissed off at the moment.
A little less than a year ago, a really sweet girl I knew, whom I shall call Kat to protect her privacy, told me that she'd gotten herself knocked up.
I wasn't too happy about this, but to her credit, neither was she. She's about my age (20), in college, and (due to her conservative Midwest upbringing) was pretty clueless about sex/birth control/etc. Apparently she had slept with her friend Marcus (whom I also knew) a few times, and hadn't used protection. She was pretty scared about it.
Now, Kat I can understand, but Marcus, despite being clueless, grew up in Alaska, and therefore went to the same school system I did. And I *know* that, despite being a pretty conservative state, Alaska has a good education program about STD's, pregnancy, and the precautions you should take.
Unfortunately, while he's got a good heart, Marcus is probably damn close to the definition of "clueless". If I'd been in the same town as him when Kat told me he hadn't used birth control, nor even said anything about it, he would have been minus a couple of testicles. I wasn't surprised that he hadn't wanted to deal with it, but I was pretty damn pissed. Especially since he was being a total dipshit about the whole thing ("As much as I love Kat, I don't want to marry her, she's not the one for me, and besides, she doesn't challenge me intellectually...I think I'd be a better uncle than a father...etc. etc.")
Well, Kat's not going to get an abortion, which I'm willing to respect as her decision. She decides to look into adoption, which I'm all for. I'm not really in touch much past this, aside from snippets here and there from Greg, an ex-boyfriend who also happens to be a good friend of both parties involved.
I finally got a news update from Marcus - apparently, the kid (I haven't heard which gender) was born two months premature and just recently came home from the hospital. And Kat's decided to keep it, and Marcus is (to his credit) acting at least somewhat more mature; he's moved a lot of things over to Kat's to be close by.
But this still doesn't give me much hope, either for Kat or the kid. Especially given this recent gem from Marcus, when I was talking to him over MSN:
"Childrearing isn't too difficult. It's a lot like living your own life, except making sure you present a good image and are around to do so."
...
My god. This guy is so fucking lucky I'm not living in the same town as him. Because if I were, I'd be sorely tempted to strangle him.
In any case, he's basically clueless, and I tell him as much, to which he rejoinds, "No, you just don't know me that well." I was sleeping with your good friend for three months, bub. I know you pretty damn well. And I know you're in NO FUCKING SHAPE TO BE RAISING A CHILD, AND YOU SURE AS HELL SHOULDN'T HAVE PUT THIS BURDEN ON KAT, WHO IS ONLY MARGINALLY MORE MATURE THAN YOU AND DOESN'T DESERVE THIS KIND OF SHIT!!
*breathes*
No, I don't suffer fools gladly, how did you guess?
Apologies if this gets incoherent. I'm really pissed off at the moment.
