Aww...

I don't generally get asked out much. This might sound surprising, but it isn't really; most of my relationships have been friendships that just mutually turned into something more; and when I'm in a relationship it's usually pretty obvious if you know me at all. And (contrary to what the movies might tell us) very few non-creepy guys have the guts to ask out a girl that they don't know.

Well, today I found one of them.

I actually felt kind of bad about turning him down. While I wouldn't say I really know him, I've talked to him a few times before - he showed up at the clinic when his cat got pretty seriously sick (I thought it was his girlfriend with him, but maybe I was wrong), and we talked a bit. Then he showed up at my house once (less creepy than it sounds; he works as a delivery guy for one of the local expediters), and I asked after his cat, and we talked a bit more. Then yesterday he shows up here for a delivery, and seemed a bit surprised/happy to see me. And today he comes by, again for a delivery, and asks me what I'm doing this weekend.

Obviously the first thing I told him is that I have a boyfriend - I know some girls will just lead guys on for the attention or an ego boost or whatever but that's always struck me as pretty reprehensible. He's always struck me as a pretty nice guy, though, so I offered to hang out sometime. He didn't seem all that interested - understandable, I suppose, since rejection (even friendly rejection) isn't easy to take. Maybe he'll take me up on my offer some other time, though.

I dunno. I feel sort of bad about turning him down - not that I'm not happy with the relationship I have (quite the opposite, in fact!) but that it does take a lot of courage to ask out a girl you don't really know, and were circumstances not as they are, I might well have taken him up on it. But things go as they go, and I sincerely hope he eventually finds someone who deserves him. I just hope he doesn't suffer from nice guy/doormat syndrome...there are enough of those in the world already.

But thanks anyway, Joseph - it didn't hurt my ego any. :)

Aww...

I don't generally get asked out much. This might sound surprising, but it isn't really; most of my relationships have been friendships that just mutually turned into something more; and when I'm in a relationship it's usually pretty obvious if you know me at all. And (contrary to what the movies might tell us) very few non-creepy guys have the guts to ask out a girl that they don't know.

Well, today I found one of them.

I actually felt kind of bad about turning him down. While I wouldn't say I really know him, I've talked to him a few times before - he showed up at the clinic when his cat got pretty seriously sick (I thought it was his girlfriend with him, but maybe I was wrong), and we talked a bit. Then he showed up at my house once (less creepy than it sounds; he works as a delivery guy for one of the local expediters), and I asked after his cat, and we talked a bit more. Then yesterday he shows up here for a delivery, and seemed a bit surprised/happy to see me. And today he comes by, again for a delivery, and asks me what I'm doing this weekend.

Obviously the first thing I told him is that I have a boyfriend - I know some girls will just lead guys on for the attention or an ego boost or whatever but that's always struck me as pretty reprehensible. He's always struck me as a pretty nice guy, though, so I offered to hang out sometime. He didn't seem all that interested - understandable, I suppose, since rejection (even friendly rejection) isn't easy to take. Maybe he'll take me up on my offer some other time, though.

I dunno. I feel sort of bad about turning him down - not that I'm not happy with the relationship I have (quite the opposite, in fact!) but that it does take a lot of courage to ask out a girl you don't really know, and were circumstances not as they are, I might well have taken him up on it. But things go as they go, and I sincerely hope he eventually finds someone who deserves him. I just hope he doesn't suffer from nice guy/doormat syndrome...there are enough of those in the world already.

But thanks anyway, Joseph - it didn't hurt my ego any. :)