Rose Rose - you have exactly captured the choice we all have to move into "Cause" by owning our own feelings, or to move into "Effect" of our feelings. This is an especially interesting dichotomy because by owning your own feelings you are at Cause, while simultaneously confessing that you are vulnerable precisely because of your own feelings (which means you are at Effect of your feelings).

You have correctly identified that moving into Cause is empowering, while moving into Effect is disempowering. Thus, those who seek to be at Cause by projecting their negative feelings violently at others, are actually the most powerless because they are putting themselves in a place where they can do nothing - because they have given all of their power away to others. We can't do much about "Those terrible people." We can only help, change and grow when we have empathy or at least the willingness to listen, learn and understand.

At the personal level for me, as your Mum, reading this entry of yours was a TOTAL WIN!!! You have grown into a deeply caring and wise woman, Rose Rose and I am so tremendously moved by your words and your courage in sharing them. My love for you grows tremendously, right along side my admiration for you. - Mum